Monday, 7 January 2013

My Body, Their Baby

I have been writing this post in my head since May. Wondering if I would write it, if I wanted to share it, wondering how I would word it.  It’s a tough thing to write about.  I probably could go without sharing if not for an upcoming vacation to a tropical destination.  I realized there would be photos and there would be questions.  And the answers would not be what people would be expecting. So here it is in case you haven’t figured it out from the title of the blog.
I am currently acting as a surrogate for two people very close to me.  If you are friends with myself and the couple then you probably saw the ultrasound photo back at the end of November.  I won’t name names or go into details regarding the surrogacy out of respect for the couple that I am doing it for.  If they wish to share their story, then maybe they can guest blog on here. 
I remember the day she found out that she couldn’t  have a baby.  I felt sad for her but never did I think that one day i would be carrying her baby inside of me. In fact, it wasn’t until shortly after Penelope was born.  I knew then that my family was complete.  I felt so blessed that I had this perfect little family to call my own.  It was then that I knew I had to help them achieve what I had.  I told Greg my feelings and he was 100% supportive of my decision.  In the end it was my decision to make but I needed him to go along with it as it would be affecting all of us.  I informed her that I wanted to do this.  She didn’t believe me.  I insisted I was for real. 
Fast forward 18 months.  There was a cancellation at the Fertility Clinic here in Calgary and we finally made it.  The journey to surrogacy started on May 2nd at the information session followed by a day of needles, ultrasounds, and a session with the therapist.  Most people were surprised that I volunteered to do this.  I was surprised that more people don’t. 
I started taking drugs on May 10th and finished on Nov 14th.  I got a 2 week reprieve while we went on our summer vacation this summer.  I will not lie.  The drugs were awful.  Three different drugs put into my body three different ways.  They were tough. So tough.  I underwent numerous ultrasounds and internal exams.  One internal exam was done at the Fertility Clinic and was so painful that I couldn’t walk for 2 days.  I am not even making this stuff up.
Implantation was done on September 22nd.  It was supposed to be a quick painless procedure done in minutes.  Unfortunately for me, my uterus decided to play hide and go seek and it took a lot longer then they anticipated and man did it hurt.  Thankfully I had a great nurse who helped me out. 
Since then, it has been a pretty much normal pregnancy.  The morning sickness has been brutal but I seem to be over it.  I am really tired but thats to be expected considering I have 2 rambunctious little kids!
I am not trying to be a hero or superwoman and I don’t see myself as either and never ever will.  All I ever wanted was to give one of my best friends the greatest gift she will ever receive.  That’s it, that’s all.
 If you have any comments or questions, please feel free to email me, text me or shoot me a facebook message and I will be happy to answer anything you might have to ask.  I am leaving for Hawaii shortly so if you don’t hear back from me until Jan 17th, it’s not because I am ignoring you but that I am away.

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